The Gift You Really Want: Someone Who Texts Back Before January
December is full of gifts we don’t really need.
Another candle.
A scarf you’ll forget you own by February.
A mug that says something inspirational but still doesn’t fix your love life.
But there is one gift many of us quietly wish for this time of year — and it doesn’t come wrapped.
It’s not diamonds.
It’s not a grand romantic gesture.
It’s this:
Someone who texts back.
Consistently.
Before January.
Let’s talk about why that bar feels shockingly high in December… and why it shouldn’t be.
Why December Makes Inconsistency Look Like Effort
There’s something about the holidays that makes minimal effort feel meaningful.
A “thinking of you” text suddenly feels like emotional availability.
A last-minute invite feels like intention.
A vague “we should get together” feels like a plan.
But here’s the truth we don’t always want to hear:
Holiday energy can turn breadcrumbs into ornaments.
Shiny. Festive. Still not filling.
The December Mirage: When Almost Feels Like Enough
In December, we’re surrounded by:
End-of-year reflection
Family questions
Friends posting in matching pajamas
A subtle (or not-so-subtle) pressure not to be alone
So when someone shows up a little, we tell ourselves:
“They’re busy.”
“It’s a crazy time of year.”
“At least they’re trying.”
And sometimes they are trying… just not in a way that builds anything lasting.
Because trying looks different from responding when it matters.
Let’s Be Honest About the Bare Minimum
Texting back isn’t romance.
It’s not vulnerability.
It’s not emotional depth.
It’s basic communication.
So when someone:
disappears for days
resurfaces with no explanation
sends warm messages without follow-through
promises more “after the holidays.”
That’s not mystery.
That’s not slow burn.
That’s delay.
And delay is information.
Why “After the Holidays” Is Not a Love Language
“After the holidays” is the adult version of:
“I’ll get back to you.”
Sometimes it’s real.
Sometimes it’s avoidance dressed up as timing.
Here’s a gentle question to ask yourself:
If they can’t show up now — when nothing is required — what will change later?
January doesn’t magically create consistency.
People do.
The Gift Exchange That Actually Matters
You don’t need someone who:
texts perfectly
responds immediately
sends paragraphs
You do deserve someone who:
responds within reason
communicates clearly
follows up when they say they will
doesn’t leave you guessing
Because the real gift isn’t attention.
Its reliability.
A Gentle December Filter
Here’s a simple way to protect your heart this season:
Before you invest emotionally, ask:
Do they text back without being prompted?
Do they initiate, not just respond?
Do their words match their timing?
If the answer is mostly “no,” then this isn’t the gift you’re waiting for.
It’s just wrapping paper.
A Little Humor (Because We Need It)
If someone can:
RSVP to a party
Show up to brunch
Post pictures
Scroll endlessly
But can’t send a simple response?
That’s not being busy.
That’s being selectively unavailable.
And you don’t need to unwrap that.
Tiny Holiday Truth
The gift you really want
isn’t a surprise.
It’s someone who shows up —
before January makes promises they won’t keep.
This season, choose the gift that lasts:
Clarity.
Consistency.
And someone who doesn’t leave your messages unopened like a forgotten package.
You’re not asking for too much.
You’re just asking the wrong person.