The December Delusion: Why the Wrong Letter Looks Right Under Twinkle Lights

(And why you should never make big decisions while holding a peppermint mocha.)

Let’s talk about December—the month where even the wrong letter suddenly starts looking like a warm, emotionally available human being… instead of the walking inconsistency he was in June.

I call this phenomenon:

The December Delusion.

It’s as if your brain puts on a festive Instagram filter, and suddenly that man who has been “busy” since Labor Day now looks:

• kind,

• mysterious,

• refreshingly responsive,

• and somehow 34% more attractive after holiday drinks.

December does this to us.
Twinkle lights lower our IQ by 20 points.
Peppermint lattes impair judgment.
And our inner romantic—who's been quiet all year—suddenly wakes up like:

“Maybe he was the one… we just met in the wrong season.”

No, Sis.
He wasn’t the one in August, and he isn’t the one now.
December just knows how to set a mood.

Let’s unpack the three biggest December Delusions so you can spot them before you accidentally start planning a future with someone who thinks “communication” means liking your Instagram posts once a week.

🎄 Delusion #1: “He Texted Me… He Must Miss Me.”

Listen.

A December text from the wrong letter isn't a sign from the universe.
It’s a sign of his nostalgia, loneliness, or maybe his bourbon.

December makes even mediocre men reflective.
He’s not thinking about your compatibility—he’s thinking about his year-end highlight reel and wondering why he’s eating holiday leftovers alone.

A text that says “Hope you're well 😊” is not romance.
It is seasonal emotional turbulence.

Check whether he’s texting with intention.
Or simply because listening to “All I Want for Christmas Is You” on repeat got to him.

✨ Delusion #2: “He Looks So Much Better Than I Remember.”

Twinkle lights are powerful.
They can make a parking lot look romantic.
They can make hot chocolate taste gourmet.
They can make the wrong letter seem like a long-term partner.

But remember:

Decorative lighting is not a compatibility filter.

If he didn’t spark joy in June sunlight,
don’t let him suddenly turn into Prince Charming under a Walmart garland.

As a rule:

If you need holiday ambiance to like him… You actually don’t like him.

You like the season you’re in. Not the man.

❄️ Delusion #3: “Maybe He Changed…”

Ah, the classic holiday plot twist we create for ourselves every year.

He didn’t evolve.
He didn’t transform.
He didn’t go on a silent retreat and discover emotional depth.

He is just responding to the same seasonal loneliness that makes you want to text him back.

Amid the music, cinnamon scents, sweaters, and the pressure to “not be alone,” your brain becomes highly suggestible.

You’re not falling in love —
you’re just falling into seasonal sentimentality.

And the wrong letter thrives in environments where logic is offline.

Growth takes time.
December has 31 days.
Please adjust accordingly.

🎁 The Wrong Letter Only Looks Right Because January Feels Far Away

Here’s the truth:

We act differently in December because the consequences don’t seem real yet.

January is when clarity returns.
January is when standards come back.
January is when you look back and think:

“…I entertained WHO?”

December is temporary romance goggles.
January is the eye exam.

🧣Why December Men Feel Different (But They Shouldn't)

Here’s the thing:
December doesn’t change men.
It just changes your mood lighting.

Every letter group knows this.

A–E (The Grounded Builders)

They start feeling kinder. Warmer. More thoughtful.
It’s not growth yet — it’s nostalgia with good manners.

F–L (The Steady Hearts)

Suddenly philosophical.
Extra communicative.
Sending “hope you're doing well” messages with suspicious timing.

M–N (The Charming Whirlwinds)

Peak season.
This is their Olympics.
They thrive during “big feelings” months — and December is the Super Bowl of sentimentality.

O–T (The Deep Divers)

Intense. Reflective. Possibly hauling out old journal entries.
Their DMs come with a soft emotional backstory attached.

U–Z (The Wild Cards)

Unpredictable.
They either vanish or show up with “Hey, stranger” energy you weren’t prepared for.

None of this makes them the right letter.
It just makes them December versions of themselves.

And December versions of people are like holiday store displays:
beautiful to look at, fun to admire, but not built for long-term living.

🌟 Your December Dating Assignment

Instead of letting holiday ambiance cloud your judgment, try this:

• Notice who makes you feel grounded, not dazzled.

• Pay attention to consistency, not charm.

• Choose conversations that feel warm in the daylight.

• Stop flirting with nostalgia—it lies.

• Remember that in January, you always know the truth.

December gives us magic.
January gives us clarity.
Please don’t confuse the two.

💜 Final Thought: You Deserve More Than Seasonal Attention

The right letter will feel right in every season—not just when glittery lights are doing half the emotional labor.

So while December Delusion may make the wrong letter look right…

Your intuition still knows the difference.

And she’s never wrong.