LOUISE’S LOVE LETTER

EDITION 09:

Beware the Man Who Texts “Happy Holidays 😉”

Hey, Friend

It’s officially the season when twinkle lights turn even the wrong man into a maybe, a potential, or worse… a holiday exception.

If you felt a tiny flutter reading that, trust me — you are not alone.
December has a way of softening our standards like butter left on the counter.

So this week, we’re exploring a question that has haunted many women holding a peppermint latte.

Do I actually like him… or do I just like the holiday attention?

(Spoiler: Sometimes it’s just the peppermint.)

✨ This Week on the Blog

Holiday Dating Survival Guide, Part 2:
Do I Like Him… or Do I Like the Holiday Attention?

If a man who has ignored you since Labor Day suddenly texts,
“Happy Holidays 😊,”
Please remember:

he is not experiencing personal growth — he is feeling seasonal nostalgia and possibly seeking warmth from something other than central heating.

Read the full post here and save yourself from becoming the emotional equivalent of a limited-edition holiday candle. 👉 GO TO BLOG.

✨ Festive Flirting (For the Emotionally Intelligent Woman)

Here’s your holiday flirting philosophy:

Flirt freely. Commit cautiously.

Because the holidays make everything seem more magical—even men who have no business looking that charming in a scarf.

If you want to enjoy a little December sparkle, do it with intention,
and remember:

A well-timed compliment? Fun.
A well-timed boundary? Gorgeous.
A well-timed exit? Legendary.

🌲 WELL Moment —Holiday Edition

Wisdom: “Joy doesn’t require company. But the company should add to your joy.”

Energy: You deserve a gentle, steady connection — not seasonal confusion.

Laughter: If his texts only come during moments of nostalgia, bad weather, or football commercial breaks… girl, Santa is more consistent.

Love: Treat yourself the way you wish he would — and watch your standards rise.

🎄 Holiday Alerts (Read with Love… and a Side-Eye)

❄️ Alert #1: The Pop-Up Holiday Boyfriend
He appears now and disappears on January 2nd.
He is the Spirit of Christmas, Maybe.

🎁 Alert #2: The “We Should Hang Out Before the Year Ends” Guy
Ma’am… this isn’t romantic.
It’s scheduling panic disguised as charm.

❄️ Alert #3: The Holiday Confession Text

If he suddenly realizes how special you are during a Hallmark movie, please let the record show:
The movie is doing 80% of the emotional work.

🎁 Alert #4: The New Year’s Eve Panic Invite
This isn’t love.
It’s the fear of being photographed alone.

Choose people who bring comfort, not confusion — with or without the cinnamon-sugar aesthetic.

🎉 QUIZ TIME: Are You Into Him… or Into the Holiday Magic?

Select the answer that speaks to your soul.

1. When he texts “Happy Holidays!”, your first reaction is:
A) “Aww, he remembered!”
B) “Sir… who are you again?”
C) “Let me not misinterpret this seasonal emoji.”

2. Your heart flutters because:
A) He seems more attentive.
B) You’re imagining the date under twinkle lights.
C) You just really like December.

3. If it were July, would you still be interested?
A) Yes, absolutely.
B) Not even a little bit.
C) I would need to review the evidence.

4. Do you feel excited about him — or about not walking into gatherings solo?
A. Him
B. The not-solo thing
C. Honestly, the outfit

5. What are you hoping for?
A) Genuine connection
B) Cute holiday moments
C) Someone to take photos of you at the Christmas market

If you answered mostly B’s or C’s:
Congratulations — you don’t like him.
You like December.

And that’s okay… as long as you don’t make January decisions with December feelings.

💜 From the Author’s Desk

The holiday season is beautiful, magical… and chaotic enough without emotional plot twists.
This year, give yourself the gift of clarity.

The right connection will feel good in every season — not just the ones with decorative lighting.

👀 What’s Coming Next Week on the Blog

Blog Post 13 — “The December Delusion: Why the Wrong Letter Looks Right Under Twinkle Lights.”

Ooh, yes… we’re going there.
Bring your cocoa and your self-awareness — it’s going to be a fun one.

🎁 A Soft Reminder

If you haven’t yet picked up 'Stop Dating the Wrong Letters' or the companion workbook, now is a great time to treat yourself or buy for someone else. They make excellent Christmas gifts! Your future self will thank you — especially when January Boyfriend season arrives. 😉

And if you’ve already read them, a quick Amazon review helps new readers discover the Alphabet Theory universe.

Thank you for supporting this little world we’re building.

💜 With love, laughter & holiday clarity,

Louise
Author of Stop Dating the Wrong Letters
www.2-oys.com