LOUISE’S LOVE LETTER

EDITION 31:

The Stories We REALLY Used to Tell Ourselves 💜

Today’s observation:
Some of us weren’t ignoring red flags.
We were aggressively rewriting the script.

Hey, Friend

There was a time when many of us could turn almost any confusing behavior into a reasonable explanation.

Delayed response?

“He’s just busy.”

Mixed signals?

“She’s probably scared.”

Emotionally unavailable?

“He’s been hurt before.”

Meanwhile, your nervous system was somewhere in the background, like:

“…respectfully, this feels terrible.”

✨ THIS WEEK ON THE BLOG

💜 The Dating Behaviors We Used to Romanticize

This week’s post is about the wildly creative stories we used to tell ourselves to make confusing behavior feel more acceptable.

Inside the post:

• the “bad texter” narrative
• the “they’re just scared” storyline
• why potential keeps us emotionally invested
• and how growth changes the way we interpret behavior

👉 Read the full post here: GO TO BLOG.

If you’ve ever explained someone’s behavior so thoroughly that you accidentally convinced yourself to stay… this one’s for you.

A LITTLE LOUISE LOGIC 💜

If you need three paragraphs to explain why someone’s behavior “actually makes sense”… there’s a decent chance it doesn’t.

MINI QUIZ — REALITY OR ROMANTIC REWRITING?

Be honest. No editing the evidence.

1. Someone disappears for hours after saying they’ll call. You think:
A) Weird
B) Inconsistent
C) Maybe they got busy
D) Let me create a backstory

2. A friend describes the exact same behavior to you. You immediately:
A) Notice the red flag
B) Feel protective
C) See the pattern
D) Wonder why we’re all like this

3. Your dating explanations often sound like:
A) Observations
B) Hopeful interpretations
C) Emotional archaeology
D) A Netflix documentary series

Mostly C or D?
You may have confused optimism with investigative reporting

A QUICK REALITY CHECK (WITH A SMILE)

If your dating life requires:

• interpretation

• translation

• emotional subtitles

• and occasional witness testimony…

You are probably doing too much.

THE WELL MOMENT

Wisdom:
Patterns usually tell the truth before explanations do.

Empathy:
Of course, you wanted to believe the best. Most hopeful people do.

Laughter:
If your explanation starts sounding like a character reference… pause.

Lesson:
Clarity often begins the moment we stop rewriting reality to feel more comfortable.

PASS IT ON 💜

If this newsletter made you laugh, cringe a little, or remember a relationship that deserved its own fact-checking department…send it to a friend who also used to narrate confusion as if it were character development.

Closing Thought

Growth is realizing:
You don’t actually need a better explanation.

You need a better experience.

And honestly?

That realization alone can save you months of emotional customer service.

With love, clarity, and fewer plot rewrites,
Louise
Author of Stop Dating the Wrong Letters
www.2-oys.com